Wedding Planning – 5 Ways to Stay Sane!
Choosing what to write for our very first blog on our shiny new website was a little daunting, so I thought what better way to start than to write about my own wedding planning experience and hopefully share with you a few helpful tips along the way.
As a project manager of a web design company at the time, I’d imagined planning our wedding to be a breeze; I’d treat it like any other project, I would have numerous spreadsheets, to do lists, mood boards, and project plans! And this is precisely what I did.
I also bombarded my fiancé with questions as he would walk through the door from work each day, various colour charts thrust into his face, numerous YouTube videos of wedding bands played to him while he was eating his dinner and many of my hair brained and impractical ideas shared with him just as he was about to drop off to sleep. After a few weeks of this, lots of strange sideways glances and exasperated looks of ‘oh my god here she goes again’, I realised I needed to chill out! I didn’t want to become THAT bride. I was starting to find it stressful and I wanted to enjoy it, so I took a few steps back, a few deep breaths and then did the following…in a totally laid-back and chilled out kind of way of course 😉
1) One thing at a time but start big!
Write your to do list down to the small things, but pick off all the big tasks to start with to get them out the way, these are usually the ones that get booked up early on so best to just bite the bullet and get them done soon as possible. Think: venue, band, photographer and florist. Once these are sorted you’ll feel much better.
2) A little help from your friends
Calling all talented and creative people! Think about the people around you and their particular skill sets. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, ask them for their help instead of giving you wedding gifts. It was our talented friends and family that made our day special, for example our wedding stationery designed by Deva and the beautiful brownie favours baked to perfection by our friend Kat.
3) Get to grips with the budget
Set a budget as early on as possible and then try your best to stick to it. Yep this is easier said than done, but having an idea of what you want to spend on each item from the beginning can really help keep you on track. Write it down so you can keep yourself in check as you go.
4) Pin it
Don’t underestimate the power of the mood board, getting an idea of both your likes and dislikes early on can help you make crucial decisions about your wedding day. Get yourself acquainted with pinterest or go old school with magazine clippings and an old scrap book. Whatever way you decide to do it, I assure you it will be well worth investing the time.
5) Enjoy it!
Ok so it’s highly likely that one of you will be slightly keener on the wedding planning than the other (possibly you reading this blog?) But don’t get frustrated if you think your partner’s not interested. It’s not that they don’t care, they do! But the most important thing to them is they are marrying you. Enjoy every minute of it; it will be the best day of your lives whatever happens.
So don’t sweat the small stuff, in the end all that matters is that you have an amazing time celebrating the most special day with the one you love, with your family and friends around you. I only wish we could do it all over again!
Happy wedding planning xx